As an adult, I have survived numerous abusive relationships with individuals who I recognize now espoused some or all of the traits of narcissism. Empathetic people often find themselves to be victims of narcissistic relationships, sometimes repeated victims, as in my case. It profoundly affects your sense of confidence, security, and safety in the world because narcisstic relationships gaslight you and make you think there is something wrong with you or that you did something to them to deserve this treatment. There is also a long-term fear that you live with about these people resurfacing in your life and harming you again, no matter how strong of boundaries you construct. I am writing this as an expression of solidarity with other survivors of narcissistic abuse, particularly those who are not looking for any carceral response or punishment but just want their life, self-trust, and happiness back. Narcissistic relationships are like a black hole; you pour and pour into them, getting nothing back, until you’re sucked away into nothing. Healing from narcissistic abuse is slow, but it is possible once you are able to recognize it.